The following excerpts were taken from a Veritas Press email . . . Encouraging words for homeschooling moms. It reminds me of my hubby who told me early on in our marriage after our first big move that the things in life that are worth something don't come easily. Basically, if it is something of value it comes at a cost and I have found that to be soooooo true. Homeschooling is not easy but it has so much value. O.k. so here is the article . . .
Of course, the problem with doing hard things is, well . . . they're hard. However, just because we have all chosen to pursue a more challenging path, doesn't mean we ought walk around miserable and exhausted. We can and should have joy in our journey. For those who sometimes feel overwhelmed, or if you believe that you're falling short in your role as a parent educator, I present the following article by guest writer Todd Smith who, I believe, offers some encouragement to help you regain some perspective and, hopefully, your joy!
Keep Swimming!!
I’m convinced that the most difficult job in
the world is not a rocket scientist, nuclear physicist, or brain
surgeon. Without a shadow of a doubt, I believe that illustrious
designation belongs to the homeschooling mom.
I should know, after all, because I’m
married to one. And if you’re at all like her (and you are), then I
know what you’re feeling right about now. It never fails. Two months
into the school year, and you are probably ready to throw in the towel.
All those happy thoughts you felt BEFORE the first school day are long
gone. Those great plans and lofty ideals you had about the glories of
learning and enjoying it have been squashed flatter than a possum on
the highway.
I’ve seen the look in my own wife’s eyes.
She looks like she’s searching for the nearest exit. Even today, she
voiced her fatigue:
“I’m just wasting my time!”
“I can barely stomach singing those same stupid learning songs . . .”
“She is NEVER going to read!!!”
“Maybe homeschooling isn’t the best!!”
Now, I know she wouldn’t quit homeschooling
our children . . . but still, I wonder. The lies are coming fast and
furious, the doubt is overwhelming . . . the feelings of failure
pervade, and the waves of fatigue are swelling and the skies stormy.
Now hear ME, Sailor-MOM!!! Hoist the mizzen
mast, something-or-other the mainsail, batten down the hatches . . .
we’re sailing into choppy waters (the waters are always choppy). BUT
steady as she goes. Do not veer or swerve from your course, because
you’re right on target!!!
Thirty years ago, I remember reading a story
about a woman who was going to swim a large body of water (it may have
been the English Channel or the Atlantic Ocean). She was strong and
had trained for that moment and was ready when the big day arrived.
The sky was blue and the sun shining as she
stepped into the water, but somewhere along the way a thick sea-fog
rolled in, blinding the swimmer. Trying to get her bearings, she would
stop, tread water, and then, unable to see even three feet ahead of
her, dip her head back in the water and keep swimming. As the fog
clouded her vision, doubt and lies clouded her thoughts. As her hope
faded, her legs and arms turned to lead, and she finally gave up and
climbed into the little boat that was trailing her.
The reason I still remember the story is
because moments after she gave up, the little boat broke out of the fog
and was right by the shore. The truth was: she was right on target.
She would have reached her goal . . . but the fog clouded her vision
and caused her to believe the lie that she was off-course, and she
acted on it. There’s a lesson to be learned for homeschooling moms.
Mom, you may feel like you're failing and
that everyone else’s kids are light-years ahead of your children. . . .
BUT the truth is you are right on target. And, here’s one unshakable
truth you’re going to want to hang onto: home is the best place for
your children and you are the best teacher for them. So keep
swimming!!!
I know you doubt that truth and wonder if
your kids would be better off “away” from your home . . . away from
you, but that is a LIE. Home is the best place for children. It’s the
best place to learn, and YOU’RE the best person to teach them. God set
it up this way. From the beginning, He could have had that first baby
delivered into an institution, raised by a committee, or trained by a
“village,” but He didn’t. He gave two now-imperfect parents an
imperfect child. Their job? To teach him to love God and understand how
he fits into God’s world . . . in order that he might grow up and
teach his children.
So keep swimming!!
Still don’t believe that home is the best
place for your children? Take a look at today’s school system. What are
they trying to do? They’re trying to make their school more like YOUR
home!! They have classes on getting along, take field trips to the
woods, plant gardens, talk about sharing and being kind . . . ALL the
things that kids learn best at home.
So keep swimming!!
So, Mom, the rough seas of monotony may not
calm, the fog may be thick, and you may wonder if this is all worth it,
but let me remind you as I remind my wife, “Home is still the best
place for your children . . . and you’re doing just fine.”
Relax and enjoy those children of yours, because they’re growing up quick and one day . . . will be gone.
Just keep swimming!!!
Todd Wilson
Todd Wilson, author of
Help! I'm Married to a Homeschooling Mom and
The Official Book of Homeschooling Cartoons,
is a dad, writer, conference speaker, and former pastor. Todd's humor
and gut-honest realness have made him a favorite speaker at home school
conventions across the country and a guest on
Focus on the Family.
His articles have appeared in various magazines.
Christianity Today also posts his weekly column (The Familyman Weekly) on their website -
http://www.familymanweb.com/.
Todd and his wife Debbie, along with their eight
children, spend several months of the year traveling the country
encouraging moms and dads. His humor, realness, and straight talk to men
(& women) have become his trademark.
